You have to like their likes and dislike their dislikes. Most people by their mid 30's are in the market for long-term partnerships because of how much richness, material and moral value it can bring to their lives.Why would the American Psychogical Association (APA) invite Bella to give a plenary address at their national convention so she could spread the "good news" about the single lifestyle?

I said nothing and so did everyone else that was in the vicinity. Its Better To have Nobody than to have someone who is Half there or Dozen't want If people have different visions.....The most important lesson I've learned in my life is that nearly everything you hear and most of what you read is simply someone selling their preferred agenda. I was really struck by a sense that the couples attending the concert with me just were not happy. So it is likely that the "happily ever-afters" make up about 2/3 of the people who are married and the "divorcers" make up about 1/3. I've always been a solitary person and highly values my autonomy and freedom.Not to criticize your choice, but want to point out that marriages can be very different depending on the couples. Being single isn’t a bad thing, because for some people, it’s the most happiest part of their life. I can't say enough good things about them but I, like many others, have decades of experience knowing how to approach a new group and a new circle of friends.What I see with the newly divorced is they show up to a meeting and start telling people, "I'm newly divorced and need to meet new people." You do not have someone to ground you. That doesn't make any sense.I don't know the details of this, but in general, if you look back to the assumptions made when these laws were first passed, you can sometimes see why the laws are as they are. You're never going to get a great majority of people to agree, just like with abortion.I've written about these issues, in detail, many times: http://www.belladepaulo.com/2016/02/singles-advocacy-and-the-issue-of-privilege/I appreciate the reasonable tone (thank you sir) but as economics is my realm, it hits a nerve whenever anyone defends "bundling" of choices to individuals. Why didn't you keep up with your existing single friends while you were married?

The evidence suggests that most people summon strengths that surpass their own expectations.Does getting married make you happier, healthier, more integrated into society, and better off in all sorts of other physical, emotional, and interpersonal ways?

I value being able to help others without having to worry about whether I am neglecting my family & the responsibilities I have as a wife & mother. There simply isn’t time to build and develop strong, stable friendships. There are certainly complexities to leaving monogamy behind, but for many of us, there have been great rewards. After marriage, your whole life changes. That's a terribly limiting way of looking at it, in my opinion.But feelings about relationships aren't necedsatily a "way of looking at it" - they can reflect what we innately desire - or don't desire. Huh? But that's not the case.In fact, if you want to get married merely for legal, financial, asset, health plan, or reasons having nothing to do with love, you're free to do so.I'll just add, point #4 on times of life is very important. You can be careless, as much as you want. This may mean volunteer for a shift, or take on a piece of a project, or help organize an event.

I think it is important to normalize all honest, consensual kinds of relationships that work for some people, as there is clearly no one style for everyone.I am single and I'm older now, nearing retirement, and I've had a very lovely, peaceful, and fulfilling life. 6 Telltale Signs of Passive-Aggressive Behavior So how is that independence affecting the institution of marriage, I wonder?Economics and having kids can still be good reasons even if both men and women are economically independent. But to be happily married takes work, and luck finding the right fit.

The COVID crisis throws into relief what happens when grief has—quite literally—nowhere to go. Sorry no ands ifs about it. Stay single and keep your eyes secretly on other people because single life is much adventurous than the married one.When you are single, you are not accountable to anyone, you get to choose whatever you want to do. It is okay for you to enjoy being single but it is definitely a health factor.It is certainly much better to be in a relationship instead of being all by ourselves all the time which is very unhealthy. Watch Queue Queue Everest is going to make them live longer. So if you have something I should know about, please do pass it along.No one should have to marry in order to have access to such fundamental dignities.The details matter there, because there are literally thousands of laws on the state and federal levels pertaining to marriage rights. Mother often screamed at us that we were the cause of her misery and frustration. You are even scared to look at a woman. It sounds like the devil is in the details here.

Then why not just leave the traditional marriage as a "standard package" of rights for those who want it, in addition to the changes you want?In any case, your generalizations sound good, but how would you actually implement that with regard to rights that don't make sense to give to the general public at large? "Fascinating you read the comments on this thread from the perspectives of different people. Did you know single and divorced people exercise more? As for correlation and causality, that is exactly the issue with decades of research of misleading claims about marriage making people better off, as I have been arguing for nearly two decades, http://www.amazon.com/Marriage-Single-Life-Bella-DePaulo-ebook/dp/B00TYYVMSM/?tag=wwwbelladepau-20I learned how to read statistics and be skeptical about how people interpret the data since we are all biased.However, as skeptical as I am about the happily married/miserable single studies and how easy the results can be skewed or biased and the often assumed problem of correlations = causation, I am just as skeptical for the studies on the happily single/miserably married.